Facts about Meme?

Colossus of Rhodes by Rebeca Bashly and Pyramid of Giza by Thoth Jantzen
Strawberry Singh started a series "My Seven SL Facts Meme". That day I was in a bad mood and wrote a list. But I decided not to publish because it was so negative.

Lighthouse of Alexandria by Bryn Oh
The Meme post initiated a flood of follow up's which still is going on. Reading them I saw a red line  related to my rants. Obviously I am not the only one who often feels insecure about the quality of relationships in Second Life. One of my sentences has been, that maybe nobody would really miss me when I left SL. I mean me, not what I do. More than once I had to witness by incidents that people has been friend more with the blogger Quan than really with me, which made me even more stepping back from others.

Hanging Gardens of Babylon by Patch Thibaud

But is this fair against my friends? I actually still miss several very much who left, most of them without a word. With some I know why they left, others disappeared unexpected. And always I was left with the same questions: Why? Why without a goodbye or a RL connection like email or so? Was it so easy to leave me behind? But...have I been able to show them their role in my life? Maybe they had the same feeling as I do often, not to be really missed.

Mausoleum at Halicarnassus by Kaya Angel
Mausoleum at Halicarnassus by Kaya Angel
I talked with friends and more and more understood. The lack of nonverbal messages in relationships in Second Life makes us feeling insecure about our meaning for others. We need to replace that with words. My learning was that I will  try to express more my feelings about friends and to make them more knowing about their meaning for me. And those of you who want to know more about my person - I should be worth enough that you talk to me and ask!

Temple of Artemis at Ephesus by nexuno Thespian
Statue of Zeus at Olympia by KarlinJames Zepp
The photos are a thank you to the artists, who built the FFL event. It was a true joy to visit and enjoy the builds (while shopping of course). The event is over but the sims are still online. If you missed it, you should have a fast look now!

Taxi: http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Fashion%20For%20Life/130/51/24


Seicher Rae said...

Wow. It is past 3:00 a.m. here and I just got through discussing, for hours, the same thing with people about leaving SL, relationships, etc., only to come here and read your word repeat what we were saying. I don't have any insights or answers but wanted to let you know "yeah, I get it."

Anonymous said...

Dear Quan,

I will always be there for you!

Quan Lavender said...

I feared that! ;)